May2012

La Tahzan… Jangan Bersedih

Janganlah bersedih jika ada sesuatu yang kita impikan tidak tercapai. Setiap manusia merancang Allah sahaja yang menentukan. Disebalik suatu kejadian itu ada hikmahnya. Apa yang paling penting jangan putus dari rahmat Allah. berusahalah untuk terus hidup selagi nadi masih berdenyut dan jantung masih berdegup.

KENAPA WANITA MUDAH MENGALIRKAN AIR MATA

Wanita lebih cepat daripada lelaki dalam menangis dan dalam mengingatkan peristiwa yang menyababkan dia menangis dan tertawa bila ia mampu. Wanita juga adalah bintang dan pelita bagi lelaki. Tanpa pelita maka bermalamlah dalam kegelapan. 

1. Punca wanita menangis.

Mencuci mata ( merupakan salah satu cara untuk meluahkan rasa stress-dalam masa yang sama, dapat membuang bahan kimia yang terdapat dalam mata)
Mengurangkan stress.
Tanda keinsafan/penyesalan.
Sebagai ugutan emosi.

Perempuan mempunyai 9 emosi dan 1 akal. Emosi yang terkumpul banyak ini, membentuk peribadi seseorang wanita yang ketara kelembutannya, kasih, bertimbang rasa dan menghargai orang disekeliling nya. Daya tumpuan akal seseorang wanita banyak dipengaruhi oleh emosi samada ia memberi kesan baik ataupun buruk.

Sekiranya seseorang wanita itu menangis 2-3 kali atas sebab rasa syukur dan redha; pahala buat dirinya, buat kali ke 2 dan ke 3.

2. Kesan tangisan.

Dapat perhatian
Suasana rumah tangga tergugat.
Lelaki jadi bingung.
Orang lain dapat mesej.
Mata bersih dan sihat.

Orang bahagia dan gembira, tidak semestinya dia tersenyum dan orang senyum, sudah semestinya dia gembira.

Penyelesaian untuk mengurangkan rasa sedih:

1. Senyum dulu + Mengimbau perkara yang membuatkan anda rasa sedih = Perlahan-lahan melatih diri supaya tidak sedih dan menangis lagi.
2. Selalu berdoa kepada Allah.
3. Belajar untuk redha ( Baik atau buruk adalah untuk kebaikan hamba-NYA)
4. Sentiasa tersenyum – Banyak hormon baik yang keluar dan membantu seseorang wanita untuk memulakan hari dengan penuh keyakinan dan gembira.

Tangisan seseorang wanita adalah untuk melaungkan suara hati – Minta dibelai, disayangi dan dipamerkan kasih sayang. (Ia terpendam dan terbuku dalam hati)

Tangisan boleh membawa kesan yang positif, sekiranya dilakukan dengan tindakan yang positif juga

April2012

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Hati.. Sabarlah Engkau

hakikatkehidupan:

bila engkau dah hampir menjadi milikku..

hati ini seperti tak pasti adakah benar keputusan yang aku buat..

adakalanya hati meronta ronta untuk bebas dari hubungan yang belum pasti pengakhirannya..

bermacam persoalan yang bermain..

ya?tidak?ya?tidak?ya?tidak?

dan akhirnya TIDAK menjadi keputusan..

tapi hati ini tak pernah jemu menharap dan terus mengharap..

hanya serangkai doa kepadaNYA menjadi kekuatan. 

alhamdulillah.

aku masih kuat.

*walaupun ada kalanya aku tergelincir.  

March2012

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Bila anda bersedih hati,ingatlah pada DIA.Pujuklah diri,”Aku yakin dengan Allah”.InsyaAllah,diri perlu selalu diperingatkan kerana syaitan itu licik dan bijak.Jangan kerana kesedihan hati anda atas luka lama menyebabkan anda berputus asa dan menyalahkan diri.Sesungguhnya,setiap yang berlaku itu adalah tiket kita untuk meraih cinta yang ESA.Ingatlah,perkara buruk yang berlaku itu hanyalah pengkelasan manusia ke atas nasib diri yang tidak terbela,sedangkan pada pandangan Allah semuanya baik belaka.
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March2012

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‎”Mencintai seseorang itu adalah hak kita, namun memiliki seseorang yang kita cintai tanpa ikatan sah dan halal itu bukan hak kita. Jangan pernah takut melepaskan sesuatu yang belum berhak kita miliki. Dia pasti akan kembali seandainya Allah menjadikan ia untuk kau miliki atau Allah akan menggantikan dengan yang jauh lebih baik. Jangan pernah takut kehilangan sesuatu yang BUKAN hak kita.
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March2012

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‎She believed in me when no one else did, She accepted Islam when people rejected me, And she helped and comforted me when there was no one else to lend me a helping hand
Nabi Muhammad SAW mendeskripsikan istrinya, Khadijah binti Khuwailid (via ardianfajar)

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March2012

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Cinta pertama memang tak akan pernah mati, tapi ia juga tak akan pernah bertahan.
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March2012

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Kalau rindukan seseorang, angkat tangan dah berdoalah pada Allah.. “Ya Allah, sampaikan salam rinduku kepada ________ [nama penuh insan tersebut] sehingga aku menjadi kerinduannya..

lovescakes:

 Amin.. ”  *doa Nabi Yusuf*

March2012

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Aku tak berharap banyak untuk dicintai. Cukup saat kau bangun pagi nanti aku yg pertama kali kau cari.
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February2012

Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by God’s decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.

(Umar bin al Khattab)

senyumriang

February2012

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Your life is a gift. Accept it no matter how painful or screwed up it seems to be. Some things are going to work out as if they were destined to happen, as if they were just meant to be.
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February2012

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January2012

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Pain is a part of life. Sometimes it’s a big part, and sometimes it isn’t, but either way, it’s a part of the big puzzle, the deep music, the great game. Pain does two things: It teaches you, tells you that you’re alive. Then it passes away and leaves you changed. It leaves you wiser, sometimes. Sometimes it leaves you stronger. Either way, pain leaves its mark, and everything important that will ever happen to you in life is going to involve it in one degree or another.
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January2012

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Simply Hasanah: Go away dear troubles, you're not that important but He is

simplyhasanah:

Alhamdulillah for today. I actually have more blessings than troubles. Just that, whenever a problem persists, I tend to look at it negatively. Shame on me..

I tend to forget that there are always other people who have it worse than me. I tend to forget that every good or bad thing that happens…

January2012

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You say that you love rain, but you open your umbrella when it rains. You say that you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot when the sun shines. You say that you love the wind, but you close your windows when wind blows. This is why I am afraid, you say that you love me too.
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January2012

Key to Happiness

ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE

Research shows that happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspirations — they want what they can get — while unhappy people never seem to get what they want. They also know how to avoid disappointments and how to generate pleasant surprises. This is because they strive for realistic goals and are happy with their lot. As Dr Jose de Jesus Garcia Vega, of the University of Monterrey, Mexico, confirms, we must accept things as they come. 

‘We spend a lot of time complaining about the things that happen to us, but this is a waste of time and effort,’ he says. ‘To be happy, we need to enjoy what we have.’

ENJOY WHAT YOU DO

Happy people do what they enjoy and enjoy what they do — and don’t do it for the money  or glory. There’s no point being stuck in a job you hate, surrounded by unfriendly colleagues just because the money is good — people forget that they are allowed to be happy at work, too. Many spend the best years of their lives trying to make money, sacrificing their health and family in the process, says Dr Garcia Vega. Later, they spend the same money they made working trying to recover their lost health and estranged family. 

LIVE FOR TODAY

Don’t dwell on the past, on things that went wrong or previous failures. Similarly, don’t dream about an idealised future that doesn’t exist or worry about what hasn’t happened yet. Happy people live for the now; they have positive mind sets. If you can’t be happy today, what makes you think tomorrow will be different?

CHOOSE HAPPINESS

Don’t be afraid to step back and re-evaluate your goals. Imagine your life as a story that you can edit and revise as you  go along. This kind of flexible approach requires positive thinking and an open mind — you need to actively choose to be happy.


‘You always have the freedom to choose the manner in which you wish to approach any given situation,’ says Dr Garcia Vega.This theory is backed up by Ingrida Geciene of Vilnius University, Lithuania, who researched the happiness of people in 31 European countries. 

She found that ‘voluntarists’ (people who feel they have free choice and complete control over their life) were happier than fatalists (people who think little can be changed by personal intervention). 
Luckily for us, Northern European countries contain more voluntarists while Latin European countries such as Spain and Italy have a higher percentage of fatalists.  

RELATIONSHIPS

We get our happiness from other people, and from supporting other people. Remember that just as other people can make us happy, we are all ‘other people’ to someone else. And cherish people who are important to you. Research also shows that married people are happier than single people.

STAY BUSY

If you want to be happier, develop an outgoing, social personality — accept that drinks invitation, join the walking club, book group or choir. The best way to savour pleasure is in the company of others. Build a rich social life, says Eunkook M. Suh, a psychology professor at Yonsei University in Seoul, not as an obligation, but because it is rewarding, meaningful and fun.

Active, busy, social people are the healthiest and happiest, in society. Get involved: make your motto ‘use it or lose it.’ 

DON’T COMPARE

Ambition is healthy and makes people happy, explains Claudia Senik, a professor  at the University of  Paris-Sorbonne, but envy makes them unhappy. Yet comparisons with others can spoil the benefits of ambition and are only useful if you learn something from them. Focus on your goals and dreams  so you can enjoy  your ambition and achievements.

BE YOURSELF

Just as you shouldn’t compare yourself with others, it’s important not to worry about what others think about you — then you can truly be yourself. 
Happy people are spontaneous, natural and real; they  say what they think and  feel, and aren’t concerned what others think of them. Being oneself makes one feel free  and authentic.

STOP WORRYING

Don’t take yourself too seriously. Happy people don’t worry  and they recognise that 90 per cent of worries never come true.

GET ORGANISED

You might envy those laid-back bohemian types who just do things on the spur of the moment, but don’t be fooled. Happy people plan and organise, they have goals and a purpose. You can only get what you want or desire if you know what it is you want or desire in the first place. So while those chilled-out friends might seem happy, they’re actually just drifting along. 

THINK POSITIVE

Bottling up emotions and bad feelings creates psychological distress and physical discomfort. Happy people get things off their chest, their motto is: get rid of it, or it will get rid of you. Similarly, work at developing optimistic thinking; happy people always look on the  bright side. 

Successful athletes know to focus on winning, not losing, explains Miriam Akhtar, one of the first positive psychologists in the UK. We need to switch from a negative, glass-half-empty outlook to a glass-half-full and put optimism into practice to be happiest. Optimism is the mind’s natural self-defence mechanism against depression.

VALUE HAPPINESS

Happiness can be learned, but finding meaning and a purpose in life is what leads to it, not the other way around. The happiest people appreciate and realise that being happy adds years to their life, and life to their years.